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How I Turned My Obstacles into Opportunities

I’m thrilled to introduce you to today’s guest blogger. Infertility is such a common issue and something that needs to be spoken about more openly, so I am proud to use my platform for this topic. Infertility and fertility issues are something that severely impact the mental health of women and their partners. Alexandra Sipos-Kocsis is a Curator of Wellness, certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, and Master Reiki practitioner. She supports women on their life journey to help them create amazing, inspired lives beyond their wildest dreams. She is passionate about helping women overcome challenges, fulfill their destiny as powerful creators and reclaim their miracle mindset.  Here is her story:

The day a fertility doctor diagnosed me with “infertility” was a tough one. With each passing month I wasn’t pregnant I sunk deeper and deeper into a depression.

I didn’t want to see friends, family events were hard, and even going out in public was challenging, as it seemed that pregnant women and babies were deliberately put in my path just to trigger me into tears. I could no longer continue at my job because life just felt too overwhelming.

 Negative thoughts were playing on a loop in my head:

“You will never have children.”

“You are being punished.”

“You can’t do anything.”

“You are worthless.”

“Your body is failing you.”

 It was the worst time in my life and on top of that, no one seemed to be talking about infertility, or when they did, they didn’t have the right thing to say to me. No one I knew was going through the same thing – I truly felt alone.

 This story does, however, have a happy ending. I now have two amazing children and I am mentally very healthy and happy. This is how I turned a painful experience into one of hope and opportunity:

 I was at a party one Sunday afternoon where a friend announced her pregnancy. I managed to stick around for an hour, but when I was no longer able to hold back the tears, or feelings of jealousy, I had to leave. Upon returning home, I crumbled to a heap on my bedroom floor. In desperation I got down on my knees (literally) and prayed to God, to the Universe, to angels, to anything and anyone who might be listening.

 For the first time on this journey, my intuition, my loving voice was speaking loudly and clearly, and perhaps for the first time, I was ready to listen.

 I heard this message so clearly: There is a better way, you will be a mom, you just need to trust and have faith. You are going through this to help other women.

GAME CHANGER!  

In that moment, I made a commitment to love, to myself, to my future children, and to my future clients. Fear was no longer welcome at the table. 

I began declaring to the Universe daily that I am ready to be happy, ready to be a parent. 

I would talk to my future baby, telling her how excited I was to meet her. I wrote a story about my journey, and how I went on to conceive a healthy, happy baby with ease. I reread that story every day.

Instead of having the sight of a pregnant woman cause me to spiral down, I chose to see this as a sign that what I want is on its way. If it’s possible for her, I told myself, it’s possible for me too.  

My husband and I also started to make a list of 10 things we were grateful for every night. It wasn’t always easy to focus on the good when something I wanted so badly was not happening, but I knew that feeling bad felt bad and I wanted to feel GOOD.

I forced myself to focus on what I WANT, breaking the pattern of focusing on what was wrong. I would wear an elastic band on my wrist and would gently snap it when my focus would begin to spiral to remind to me focus on how I wanted to feel instead.

I realized that Happiness was a choice I needed to make by myself, every day, and I was committed. Slowly, the miracles began to add up. I was smiling again, feeling good, and enjoying life truly for the first time in years.

Life is full of challenges, unexpected and unplanned. It’s not about what happens to us that defines us, it’s how we choose to deal with them.

I’m here to be of service to you on your journey of life. Please feel free to be in touch at www.asklovereceive.com

In love and miracles,

Alexandra

4 comments on “How I Turned My Obstacles into Opportunities

  1. I can relate to this post so much! I struggled, and suffered for years with infertility issues, until one day I gave up hope completely. Like you, I too have a happy ending. After 5 long years of hopelessness, I was blessed with a happy and healthy baby girl in January of this year. Thank you for sharing your story, it was very inspirational!

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  2. A beautiful, inspiring & positive post!

    An amazing friend of mine named Carol shared a post on Twitter today called “How to Develop and Unlock a Tremendous Gratitude Muscle.” I thought you’d find it a worthy read! 🙂 You’ll relate to the first point (since you already did it) called “Start With Ten.”

    Here’s the long link:

    http://yoursocialmediaworks.com/how-to-develop-and-unlock-a-tremendous-gratitude-muscle?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+yoursocialmediaworks%2FkiLA+%28Your+Social+Media+Works+RSS+Feed%29

    Enjoy!

    p.s. there’s a GREAT picture of a hedgehog!

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  3. Thank you for this wonderful story of a turnaround in your life. You’re an inspiration, Alexandria! And thank you, Dyane, my wonderful friend, for sharing my link. Seems like a good bit of synchronicity that we’re both making lists of ten things to be grateful for.

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  4. I am experiencing a range of emotions right now after reading this post. Anger, sadness, rage…wait, that’s the same as anger, right…I find it to be clear, poignant and touching. It can be such a challenge when you feel as if you have a disadvantage in life. Feeling like a failure. I, too, have had those moments ” My mind is failing me” “I am worthless” and so on. Getting to a place of acceptance and then gratitude was a grueling process. I can truly say, the days are easier than before, but every now and then, some thought or idea strikes me at random and I am back to “stinkin’ thinkin” It is imperative to have a positive support system and if that is not possible, learn to encourage yourself. Be able to discern individuals who are spectators in life and not actual participants in the process. I like the previous comment on how to “Unlock a tremendous gratitude muscle”, very good advice! All the best

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